THE IMPLICATIONS OF SAYING YES TO A MAN (2)
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THE IMPLICATION OF SAYING YES TO A MAN(2)
We started talking about what you are risking once you say yes to a man as a lady few weeks back.
So far we have discussed the following;
So far we have discussed the following;
1. You loose your independence to him. And
2. You submit your destiny to him not just your body!
2. You submit your destiny to him not just your body!
Today, we shall be looking at some other implications and trust God to help us gain a deeper insight that will enable us get it right.
3. You are marrying for a divine purpose!
Don't ever think that marriage is for those who have come of age or fallen in love. Marriage was created for a purpose. But beyond that, every particular marriage is divinely arranged for a particular purpose. Outside the general purpose of marriage which we recognise to include companionship, procreation and the rest of them, God divinely orchestrates the coming together of two people, two souls and two destinies for a divine purpose ! This is also more reason why you cannot just marry any one that you fall in love with. Because, marriage is a life convenant of purpose fulfillment and not a life convenant of sex. If marriage is just about marrying to enjoy legal sex, bring forth children and grow old together , you will bear witness with me that it would not worth it.
Every marriage is a stronghold against the kingdom of hell. God bring people together in marriage to form a formidable force and build a kingdom that extends the influence of God on earth! He establishes each union to ensure the growth and expansion of heavenly atmosphere through their cordial fellowship together , for where two or more are gathered in his name, God's presence is generated. When a couple carry the atmosphere of God's presence in their home, they create an avenue for God's presence to rule in that vicinity! And if two agrees concerning a thing, it shall be performed unto them. God is a God of two! He works in pair! He is a God of multiplication! Why the scripture said, two chases ten thousand when one only chases a thousand. If not, why will He look at Adam and identify loneliness even when Adam did not recognize it himself? Which prompted him to say " it is not good for a man to be alone"
The loneliness He identified in Adam, was not the loneliness of emotional feeling! It was actually "aloneness" . He has given Adam a huge assignment, but recognized that Adam needs a companion for the fulfillment of that assignment. This is why He thought of Eve for Adam! And Malachi 2:15 also told us He desires Godly offspring from that union. So, one of the reasons you are even called to marry is to raise Godly children! You see how many marriages have failed in this area? Raising way-ward children and slay queens. Giving their children best food and education without godly training. Why won't the world be polluted? Head training without heart training!.
God is not bringing you into that man's life to occupy space! But to fill the void that is meant for you and hold his hand to fulfill his and your purpose of existence while producing more result. So, while in courtship, explore and discover God's purpose for your coming together and don't waste your time exploring each others private parts!
Every marriage is a stronghold against the kingdom of hell. God bring people together in marriage to form a formidable force and build a kingdom that extends the influence of God on earth! He establishes each union to ensure the growth and expansion of heavenly atmosphere through their cordial fellowship together , for where two or more are gathered in his name, God's presence is generated. When a couple carry the atmosphere of God's presence in their home, they create an avenue for God's presence to rule in that vicinity! And if two agrees concerning a thing, it shall be performed unto them. God is a God of two! He works in pair! He is a God of multiplication! Why the scripture said, two chases ten thousand when one only chases a thousand. If not, why will He look at Adam and identify loneliness even when Adam did not recognize it himself? Which prompted him to say " it is not good for a man to be alone"
The loneliness He identified in Adam, was not the loneliness of emotional feeling! It was actually "aloneness" . He has given Adam a huge assignment, but recognized that Adam needs a companion for the fulfillment of that assignment. This is why He thought of Eve for Adam! And Malachi 2:15 also told us He desires Godly offspring from that union. So, one of the reasons you are even called to marry is to raise Godly children! You see how many marriages have failed in this area? Raising way-ward children and slay queens. Giving their children best food and education without godly training. Why won't the world be polluted? Head training without heart training!.
God is not bringing you into that man's life to occupy space! But to fill the void that is meant for you and hold his hand to fulfill his and your purpose of existence while producing more result. So, while in courtship, explore and discover God's purpose for your coming together and don't waste your time exploring each others private parts!
4. Your vision submerges into his vision.
You heard me right. I will clarify this for those of us that are highly vision oriented, while I will also address those that have not really discovered their own vision.
If you are already pursuing your vision, it is very good. But you need to understand that, that vision you are already running with will somehow submerge into the vision of the man you will say yes to. We are not saying that you will loose your life completely just because you want to marry. No. Now, you need an open mind to balance this. This is the reason you have to marry a man who shares similar vision and who will give room for the expression of your vision. In other words, your vision should support or align to the vision of the man. That way, both of you can walk with a unity of vision, reserve and channel your energy and resources in achieving the vision. Even though you can run with separate missions, the missions should gear towards achieving your common vision. Your goal should be one that channels your activities towards achieving your vision. This will help you enjoy speed, peace ,unity and fulfillment of your marital purpose. Don't bother saying yes to a man whose vision is completely different from yours! If not, you will end up having a division. Running with a different vision will create a gap that may affect the oneness of your marriage. But pursuing the same vision will always create room to a common interest that will build the unity of your heart and purpose.
Are you among those that have not discovered their vision? Then am sorry to advise you to press the break button! Please get a vision first! understand why God created you as an individual! Or better still, get to know his own vision and see how you can function effectively in helping him fulfilled that vision. Having a similar vision or atleast understanding his own vision and helping him fulfill it makes you relevant to his life and that union at large. No man despises, neglects or maltreats a woman that is relevant to his course in life! No matter how irresponsible that man is, he will be very careful in his dealings with you because he understands that you are almost irreplaceable in his life.
You heard me right. I will clarify this for those of us that are highly vision oriented, while I will also address those that have not really discovered their own vision.
If you are already pursuing your vision, it is very good. But you need to understand that, that vision you are already running with will somehow submerge into the vision of the man you will say yes to. We are not saying that you will loose your life completely just because you want to marry. No. Now, you need an open mind to balance this. This is the reason you have to marry a man who shares similar vision and who will give room for the expression of your vision. In other words, your vision should support or align to the vision of the man. That way, both of you can walk with a unity of vision, reserve and channel your energy and resources in achieving the vision. Even though you can run with separate missions, the missions should gear towards achieving your common vision. Your goal should be one that channels your activities towards achieving your vision. This will help you enjoy speed, peace ,unity and fulfillment of your marital purpose. Don't bother saying yes to a man whose vision is completely different from yours! If not, you will end up having a division. Running with a different vision will create a gap that may affect the oneness of your marriage. But pursuing the same vision will always create room to a common interest that will build the unity of your heart and purpose.
Are you among those that have not discovered their vision? Then am sorry to advise you to press the break button! Please get a vision first! understand why God created you as an individual! Or better still, get to know his own vision and see how you can function effectively in helping him fulfilled that vision. Having a similar vision or atleast understanding his own vision and helping him fulfill it makes you relevant to his life and that union at large. No man despises, neglects or maltreats a woman that is relevant to his course in life! No matter how irresponsible that man is, he will be very careful in his dealings with you because he understands that you are almost irreplaceable in his life.
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Very concise and insightful. Thank you.
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